Few people – if any – would call me predictable.
But perhaps everyone I know would call me painfully particular.
I am one of those persons who must eat with a particular fork, has a favourite coffee mug, claims a side of the bed, and orders the same thing at the same restaurant often enough to have a “usual” at most establishments.
And if ever I confess that a particular man has caught my eye, my friends are usually able to sum him up in under five seconds. I’m likely to get a teasing remark like, “Let me guess. He’s about your height or a little taller, dark hair, and bearded.”
Case in point:
What can I say? I’m a woman who knows that she wants – always.
A Walking Paradox
Some people find that hard to reconcile with the same person who quits a steady job and runs off on an adventure without a solid plan. I have no excuses or explanations for that, except that it was time for a change, and time to make that change, rather than wait around for it to happen.
Change is an important part of life, but it’s also a scary one. People change. Plans change. Bands change. And then your whole world becomes a completely different place from what it was before. Sometimes we lose people in the process, and often times, we lose ourselves.
Living in a Bubble
Because of this, many of us choose to live our lives within a comfort zone. That’s why so many people never leave their hometown, even with a population of under a thousand. It’s the reason many people go to the same Church as their parents without ever stopping to consider another denomination, another religion – or none.
It’s why eyes popped out of people’s heads when Michael and I strolled into a Subway together in Eddyville, Kentucky.
To be fair, I can’t say we get those looks very often – and if we do, I certainly don’t notice. But it was an eye-opener nonetheless on how lack of exposure turns everyday lives and choices into shock and horror for people who have been doing the same thing, with the same people, in the same town, for far too long.
Still, this isn’t a post about race and racism. My aim is only to encourage all of us to remember this:
Sameness never brought any great civilisation to its height.
But it has brought several to its knees.
Sameness has neither led to discovery nor invention. Only change did that. Change, perseverance and a willingness to go against the grain and challenge the status quo.
So this week, I challenge you guys to fear change a little less, and to create change where you can. Meet new people, try new things, go to new places – expand your horizons. Life happens whether you want it to or not, so create one worth living in. Do more than just letting it happen to you.
Finally, as we head into the coldest time of the year, here are some pictures from before the biting cold, when the world was still full of colour and living things: