How to Not Get Raped in College

As many of you know, this is one of only four websites I run single-handedly. One of the others – College Mate – was created to provide free resources for students to prepare them for the real world of college and work.

Well, yesterday I published an article on College Mate that I would love to share with my readers here.

Sexual Assault in the Media

Recently, the media has highlighted quite a few stories regarding rape and sexual assault occurring on college campuses, and/or involving college students.

What has been most disturbing about these stories, is how much the public blames these women for becoming victims in the first place.

The questions and concerns are always the same.

What was she wearing?
Who was she with?
Why was she drinking at a party where she barely knew anyone?

Victim Blaming is Ridiculous

While there are definitely things women can do to help protect themselves from sexual assault, the belief that it is actually up to women to do so, sickens me.

The undeniable fact is that rape does not begin with showing some cleavage, walking across a dark parking lot to your car at midnight, or flirting with a college athlete.

Rape begins with the rapist, and any effort to stop rape from happening – and at such an alarming rate – needs to begin at the source.

This means holding the attackers accountable, not the victims. It also means educating men and women on the art of consent.

In the spirit of just that kind of education, here is the satirical piece I published on College Mate. It illustrates how absolutely ridiculous it is to put the onus on victims, to prevent themselves from being sexually assaulted.

Comments are always welcome.

~ Alexis Chateau

15 Comments Add yours

  1. omtatjuan3 says:

    There’s a petition to get rid of that judge… He said, “The guy had been drinking so he wasn’t in full control.” Is the judge serious?

    1. I heard about that. I hope it goes through. He does not represent justice or community opinion. He needs to go.

      1. omtatjuan3 says:


  2. Great piece. Have you ever seen the TED Talk “Where is Men’s Roar?” Highly recommend giving it a view – every man needs to watch it.

    1. No, I haven’t seen that one actually. Mind sending me a link?

      And thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it.

  3. I AGREE AND HAVE REBLOGGGED THIS POST The specter of human capacity for doing evil is always with us. Precautions are necessary in even the safest of environments! Too bad.

    1. Thank you Jonathan! I’m glad you enjoyed it and that it impacted you enough to share. The recent incidents are just too much to watch and say nothing. Silence solves no cases.

      1. No it doesn’t. THANK YOU for your posting!

  4. Funny how the mind works, your simple sentence of “the art of consent”, reminded me of this:

    1. Thanks. Can’t click that on my phone for some reason. I’ll try again when I get on the PC.

  5. It’s just ridiculous what they put rape victims through. Not only have they survived such a horrible assault, but then they have to be linched for it.

    1. Yes, I completely agree. That’s why a lot of women don’t want to come forward and say anything.

      1. Exactly. My heart just cries for them.

  6. Its quite sad that people have to try to not get raped, they shouldn’t be teaching us how to not be raped they should teach not to rape.

    1. Agreed. That was the point of the article. The how to now get raped part was satire.

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