How to Not Get Raped in College

As many of you know, this is one of only four websites I run single-handedly. One of the others – College Mate – was created to provide free resources for students to prepare them for the real world of college and work.

Well, yesterday I published an article on College Mate that I would love to share with my readers here.

Sexual Assault in the Media

Recently, the media has highlighted quite a few stories regarding rape and sexual assault occurring on college campuses, and/or involving college students.

What has been most disturbing about these stories, is how much the public blames these women for becoming victims in the first place.

The questions and concerns are always the same.

What was she wearing?
Who was she with?
Why was she drinking at a party where she barely knew anyone?

Victim Blaming is Ridiculous

While there are definitely things women can do to help protect themselves from sexual assault, the belief that it is actually up to women to do so, sickens me.

The undeniable fact is that rape does not begin with showing some cleavage, walking across a dark parking lot to your car at midnight, or flirting with a college athlete.

Rape begins with the rapist, and any effort to stop rape from happening – and at such an alarming rate – needs to begin at the source.

This means holding the attackers accountable, not the victims. It also means educating men and women on the art of consent.

In the spirit of just that kind of education, here is the satirical piece I published on College Mate. It illustrates how absolutely ridiculous it is to put the onus on victims, to prevent themselves from being sexually assaulted.

Comments are always welcome.

~ Alexis Chateau


You’ve likely heard of the amazing experiences that come with college life: great sports programs, fun parties, freedom, amazing opportunities to network, and of course, obtaining a degree in your field. But at College Mate, we want to prepare you for real life, by sharing both the good and the bad.

One aspect of college life many students are unprepared for is dealing with high rates of sexual assault and rape, on and off campus. In addition to this, many victims may have to deal with how lax college bodies are with handling these incidents.

Whether it’s a Stanford athlete getting a light sentence to secure his future at the Olympics, or Kenneth Starr potentially covering up sexual assault cases committed by Baylor University’s star athletes – the struggle is real.

So since rapists just can’t seem to control themselves these days, and college administrations don’t really care, here are some ways that…

View original post 1,019 more words


15 Comments Add yours

  1. omtatjuan3 says:

    There’s a petition to get rid of that judge… He said, “The guy had been drinking so he wasn’t in full control.” Is the judge serious?

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I heard about that. I hope it goes through. He does not represent justice or community opinion. He needs to go.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Great piece. Have you ever seen the TED Talk “Where is Men’s Roar?” Highly recommend giving it a view – every man needs to watch it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. No, I haven’t seen that one actually. Mind sending me a link?

      And thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it.


  3. I AGREE AND HAVE REBLOGGGED THIS POST The specter of human capacity for doing evil is always with us. Precautions are necessary in even the safest of environments! Too bad.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Jonathan! I’m glad you enjoyed it and that it impacted you enough to share. The recent incidents are just too much to watch and say nothing. Silence solves no cases.


      1. No it doesn’t. THANK YOU for your posting!

        Liked by 1 person

  4. Funny how the mind works, your simple sentence of “the art of consent”, reminded me of this:

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks. Can’t click that on my phone for some reason. I’ll try again when I get on the PC.

      Liked by 1 person

  5. It’s just ridiculous what they put rape victims through. Not only have they survived such a horrible assault, but then they have to be linched for it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Yes, I completely agree. That’s why a lot of women don’t want to come forward and say anything.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Exactly. My heart just cries for them.

        Liked by 1 person

  6. Its quite sad that people have to try to not get raped, they shouldn’t be teaching us how to not be raped they should teach not to rape.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Agreed. That was the point of the article. The how to now get raped part was satire.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s