
Most people who visit Jamaica describe us as friendly and helpful. They praise our customer service and wish they could learn to live at our more laidback pace. We know how to party until the sun comes up and can just as easily relax at home and sleep through the Sunday rainfall. We are an “unbothered” people — for the most part.
Still, there is another side of Jamaicans. We generally don’t beat around the bush. We are forward and direct. Because of this, many foreigners see us as aggressive, especially when they work with us. Even while enjoying social time, non-Jamaicans often mistake our loud conversations for fights.
Soon enough, someone asks the question, “Why are Jamaicans so mean?” In fact, not only is this the search query that brings a lot of people to my blog, but it’s also a question I get asked often.
Instead of trying to answer this one myself, I’ve enlisted the help of fellow Jamaicans to tell you why we are so mean after all — or that you’re totally mistaken.
1. We Prefer Direct Communication
I dislike Southern Hospitality. Every time a Southerner gives me this as their reason for why the South East is a great place to live, I burst their bubble by telling them that this is precisely what I hate about it and why I don’t trust them. At this point, their eyes are bulging out of their heads.
So, I explain, “I come from a culture where if we don’t like you, we make it perfectly clear. I can respect that. What I have zero respect for is the White lady waving to me while standing under the Confederate flag over her front porch. That makes zero sense to me and I’m not waving back.”
Overseas people tend to be more euphemistic when expressing their frustration. Jamaicans are moreto the point. It's just cultural 🤷♀️. Many Jamaicans tend to see foreigners as hypocritical because they will smile with you even if they can't stand you
— Medium Fluffy 🦁 (@averagejamaican) March 8, 2020
Put more simply, we are not a culture that beats around the bush and we dislike people who do. This is the number one reason Jamaicans gave for why so many people think we’re downright mean.
We're not mean. Bob said "the truth is an offense, but never a sin". We're honest. Unfortunately, when honesty meets the innate expressiveness of patois, people (mis)interpret it for unkindness. Too bad for them that I can compare an attitude/image to 100 different (awful) things
— Ambrosia™ 🇯🇲 Blue Lagoon Budget (@ambrosia_omG) March 7, 2020
Not mean, we're just an extremely direct culture. Comedically Jamaicans are extremely witty with a unique humor. To know it is to love it. But there's plenty of "traditionally" nice Jamaicans though lol
— Ni-Ko-lis We-li-yams, MBA (@InTheNickATime) March 8, 2020
It's not mean it's just that we have no time to pamper and sugar coat to save people's feelings. If you can't handle the truth don't ask a Jamaican because we tell you like it is.
— WenSim (@wensbff) March 8, 2020
More like direct. Other cultures tend to be more diplomatic whereas Jamaicans feel we should say it like it is to avoid misunderstanding. Also we're not very good at hiding our true feelings so it's not surprising that some would interpret this as being mean.
— EpicJamaica (@epicjamaica) March 8, 2020
Mi like how you explain it!! 😌
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 8, 2020
This is one of the big reasons I'm leaving the Southeast. If one more Georgian hits me with the "Southern hospitality" a rass maw go rass somebody. Keep your fake smiles. If you don't like me, say so and move along. Chances are, I don't like you either. We'll save so much time 🤷
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 8, 2020
2. We Engage in Playful Aggression
Have you ever seen two Germans having an exciting conversation before? Chances are, you assumed they were arguing. But, were they really? The German accent is very aggressive. If you’ve never seen jokes about this in pop culture before, I’ll start you off with this video.
The same is true of the Jamaican accent. It sounds aggressive. When you add a few decibels and fast hand movements, you’re left wondering if you should run for your life. Maybe you should, but half the time we’re just playing around. We could lose patience with a friend in two seconds and then be fine again in five.
Most of us speak patois, which is an aggressive language, like German. We don’t beat around the bush and don’t like To waste time. Most foreigners are more on the placating or diplomatic side. The majority of Jamaicans aren’t. Dem too soft and hypocritical. 😪😪
— Sambusak in My Pak (@MoriRebel) March 8, 2020
I wouldn't say we are mean, per say… We're just short-tempered and aggressive. This is seen in our language and interactions like e.g., you're laughing and then slap the nearest person. But, this aggressiveness, is seen as playfulness in our culture. But to others, it isn't.
— bayonetta – 希望 (@LaffehTaffeh) March 8, 2020
…then how we relate to people (Jamaicans and even non-Jamaican who may be friends or not) comes across as mean depending on the social context and differences…. we might really be joking or not really being serious and it comes off as mean
— Gun Gyal✨ (@Sm_i_le_) March 7, 2020
I think we joke a lot about almost everything. You will need a sense of humor. It's not that we are mean, we just find humor in almost everything.
— daphne's daughter (@DeniseWhorms) March 7, 2020
I dont think jamaicans are necessarily mean. We just talk like that…people from other cultures are not used to dealing with any type of what they deem aggressive dialect😂😂😂😂 so to them it sounds like we fighting 😂😂😂
— Kedesha Boothe🇯🇲 (@KedeshaBoothe) March 8, 2020
We are blunt and joke a lot. We are just not as sensitive as everyone else. We are very loving though.
— jamaycanprincess 🇯🇲 (@jamaycanprinces) March 8, 2020
I don't think we're mean, but we're very direct for sure. I think a lot of people hear things said in Patois, or even just our accent when we speak English, and interpret the things we say a lot more aggressively than we might intend, but we're not mean at all.
— But Really Though? 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@jhrissland) March 7, 2020
3. You Crossed the Line
Jamaicans do not take kindly to insults. Reprisal killings make up a significant portion of our murder rate in Jamaica. No, I’m not saying we’re going to kill you if you say the wrong thing.
What I am saying is that we have a culture of responding aggressively when you cross the line. If you think a Jamaican is being mean that’s probably because we thought the same of you and decided to show you what mean really is.
That being said, we will tell you bout your muma and her claat if you fly pass your nest. Just easy yourself and it’ll be “Jamaica; no problem”
— I come with baggage (@aly_berry1) March 8, 2020
So, what did she want you to say? That you're hurt and let's be friends? If she don't move herself ….. 🙄
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 8, 2020
I'm DYING because I'm reading this while you have your name set to "Passive Aggressive"!!! 🤣🤣🤣
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 7, 2020
Moved from Jamaica to NYC so ppl would say I'm mean²…… I can be very mean but that also depends on you, so🤷🏻♀️ just move outta my way n don't come to me with nonsense🙂
— VanillaBeans (@TiinaBeans) March 8, 2020
What I always tell people, we are NOT mean. We're just blunt and straightforward AF and we don't take no shit from nobody. Period.
— Britt The Beauty 🇯🇲💫 (@Britt__Da__Shit) March 8, 2020
When you treat people nice them tek disadvantage of you. You have to be mean to make them know you not too too nice so they won't tek liberty.
— Unregistered Wedding Ring (@askanonpro) March 7, 2020
I think we are more blunt and direct so it maybe a been off putting. Plus we really don't like when people ask, what we would consider a stupid question and our irritation comes out in our response.
— Tassy Wassy (@tas_wirl) March 8, 2020
4. You’re Exploiting Our Culture
In some cultures, imitation is flattery. A prime example of this is America. When you come to the U.S., Americans want you to look American and sound American. Bring the food from your culture, but please do leave everything else at the door. Your religion, your language — all of that can go.
Jamaica is the opposite. In our culture, imitation is an insult. We absolutely hate when you meet us for the first time, and five seconds into learning we’re Jamaican, you’re trying to sound like us and talking about “Jamaican mon” and “Bob Marley.” On a good day and if you’re a tourist, we might let this slide.
On a bad day? Just try not to catch us on a bad day, eh?
Mean? 😂😂 Thinking about it the only reason that would be accurate is where we are tired of our culture being exploited… otherwise we're laughing or stating facts. Personally don't see how Jamaicans get labeled as mean tho lol.
— FyffeStar🇯🇲✨ (@FyffeJireh) March 7, 2020
5. We Have Finite Patience
As one tweep explained, we have a short temper and an even shorter supply of patience. Generally speaking, we don’t like stupid questions and we hate repeating ourselves. On a good day, we’ll humour you. If you catch us on a bad day, well — I already warned you about our bad days.
I think we are more blunt and direct so it maybe a been off putting. Plus we really don't like when people ask, what we would consider a stupid question and our irritation comes out in our response.
— Tassy Wassy (@tas_wirl) March 8, 2020
Rhaatid! 🤧 Why unnuh cyaah be gentle and sweet like sugar and cream? 🤣
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 7, 2020
Can't stand foolishness and will call it out. We're not mean, they're just soft.
— Toruk Makto (@BufbertBeefcake) March 8, 2020
6. You’re Mistaken
One of the most interesting things I’ve noticed is that foreigners who spend a lot of time around Jamaicans are genuinely confused by the question, “Why are Jamaicans so mean?” The thought never crossed their minds. I’m not sure if that says more about their own personality types than our culture, but we sure welcomed them when they came running to our defence!
I keep telling you, Matt. The UK does not count as "farrin". They can deport us until kingdom come, but the UK is an extension of Jamaica. We own it. 🤣
America and Canada are a different story. Most of these responses are based on feedback there and Asia, so far.
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 8, 2020
Not Jamaican, but as a foreigner, I do not think this is true. Haha.
I would say direct & passionate instead.— Jena Marie (@JenaMarie426) March 8, 2020
That's an honest assessment! We accept it! 😌
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 8, 2020
🤣🤣🤣
They're gonna get you for this. Wait til you sign out. 🤧
— Alexis Chateau 🇯🇲🇺🇸 (@alexischateau_) March 8, 2020
7. You Don’t Understand the Cultural Differences
At the heart of all this is that some cultures and the specific people within them perceive Jamaican cultural cues as too aggressive because of the lenses they look through. If they took the time to understand that we are a less restrained and more expressive culture — and how much we love that! — they would understand why we feel less inclined to meet their own cultural standards.
Being prim and proper has its time and place, but applied to us outside of a formal setting, it often stinks of Eurocentric ideals.
What non-Jamaicans should try to understand is the intention behind our perceived 'meanness'. We may be loud and in some cases brutish but we're polite and respectful. We may not coddle or preen but we still care about you. Don't let the frown scare you. Our hearts smile
— Baraka Flaka Flaaaame 🇯🇲 (@blackinnaminute) March 7, 2020
The two cents that I'd add is that we aren't necessarily mean but rather we were raised to be thick skinned and outspoken. Furthermore, our society and culture is inherently aggressive.
— Yogen No Ko🇯🇲 (@styrofoambax) March 8, 2020
The Final Verdict
So, what’s the main takeaway here? Jamaicans are not mean. We’re aggressive, but not mean. We like to yell at each other, but we’re just joking around. If you look awful in that dress, we will tell you so and hurt your feelings. But wouldn’t you rather know now than later?
If you have Jamaicans in your life, cherish them. While we do have some exceptions, most of us are the most genuine people you could ever hope to meet. If we hurt your feelings yesterday, we’re sorry, but thicken up that skin because Lord knows we might do it again tomorrow!
As an American raised by a Jamaican single mother… I do believe Jamaicans have serious emotional and social issues. Depending on their education level will determine how well they can hide it. Obviously there are exceptions to anything meaning there are lots of great Jamaicans out there. However the culture promoted is NOT one of educated communication. They’ll be the first to get offended while also telling you not to be offended. Good communication, psychology ect is not culture in my opinion. It’s science (tested facts). Which means choosing to ignore it or only use it in the work place speaks volumes on the kind of person you are. If i were building a paradise where everyone was to cohabitate and get along, I wouldn’t be looking for the majority of Jamaicans. Id be looking for a minority of them.. You can find articles written by well educated and distinguished Jamaicans who agree.
Hello David, I am sorry to hear you have a terrible relationship with your mother. And that your mommy issues have compelled you to write off an entire group of people based on your bad experiences. As someone actually born, raised, and educated on the island among millions of Jamaicans and who has lived in FOUR countries, I disagree with you.
But if your external hate makes it easier to live with the parts of you, you dislike, that your mother helped create, that’s fine. Whatever floats your boat. I do find it interesting that you’re centered on your single mother and not the missing father, regardless of his nationality. Or, presumably, he passed? You didn’t say.
Anyway, I wish you healing and happiness, however healthy way you may find it.
Why is it that some jamaicans dislike/judge/even hate black Americans?
I honestly think it’s the other way around and not just for Jamaicans. I have a Haitian family member, for instance, who shared that it wasn’t the White kids telling him to go back to his country. It was the African Americans.
Meanwhile, when I lived in Georgia, there were African Americans protesting at universities that affirmative action shouldn’t be open to other non-White races/ethnicities and that Black people from other countries shouldn’t have access either. These are part of ADOS ideology, which we have also overwhelmingly encountered online. In fact, I find that me and many of my family members and friends have experienced more aggression and inappropriate behaviour from African Americans than White Americans, which is not what any of us expected when we arrived. We won’t even get into the comments made when we chose not to support that Shacari girl after she disrespected one of our Jamaican athletes.
I currently live in Mexico and the Mexicans I know have also made a keen observation and distinction between African Americans and the West Indians they know, myself included. I can’t begin to describe how their demeanor changes toward me when they find out I’m not American, but Jamaican. And this has happened in EVERY country I travel to.
Why is that? I don’t know. Maybe it’s not the race, but the nationality and the culture that comes with it? I leave the Americans to ponder that one.
It depends on your experience and identity. If you’re LGBTQ then there is documented truth to Jamaican being hostile.
Jamaica is definitely an extremely homophobic country. This is rapidly changing, but not fast enough. That said, homophobia is not “mean”. That’s blatantly hateful behavior and a completely separate topic from what we’re discussing here.
I could definitely see what Marty was saying. Listen, how I see is it that Jamaica has it’s own culture just as any culture mixed from its traditions environment and a fingerprint of factors. The culture doesnt define everyone there but can be found in many. From what I have observed it is a egoistic culture. Before you pop off and take egoistic for completely bad or your own definition… we are all egoistic it’s part of our survival nature. It comes out in society through materialism and other behaviours and characteristics. They aren’t necessarily bad that’s to each owns interpretation but to me I see a lot of this materialism in Jamaicans. Dressing to the nines. Having little but putting on the fake diamonds. Spending everything on the BMW. Again ot all are like this of course, but it’s a trend. Being done up to the nines.
There is also an attitude of being a bad man or bad gyal. This all feeds into the done up looking good sexy thing. Then we get to the attitude of being tough. Straight forward. Blunt. Aggresive. Where the ego part comes in like Marty said is when they get it back. Usually a toughness like this and materialism is surface meaning a deeper weakness.of some sort. This is inevitable as attaching your worth and identity to external ‘things’ creates a very unstable self worth which is affected by the external. Therefore when those blunt comments or people do get some kind of blunt thing or criticism back, my god they do not take it well. You can see the sensitivity between the hard shell. They will talk about it for days. They will cut out people because they get so hurt. They will lash back. They will defend. They’ll tell you you cant take critisim and a second later you’ll give constructive critisim and they’ll get defensive then turn it around on you and attack. And then later still swear they take critisim fine it’s you with the problem.
These are all symptoms of living more from ego seen in any culture. There is also a what many call today ‘toxic maculinity’ part of the culture. Men being very bossy to women, using them, cheating. This is all also part of ego and a learned hardened exterior they have. But they also cant handled being cheated on for example. It’s a hard exterior with a soft interior and lack of emotional control. At noones fault of there own. But it is this way.
They can be very mean. I know some very nice jamaicans but if you date a jamaican man especially who grew up poor and had to be even harder. Be careful. They deserve love just like anyone else but you have to take care of yourself too
Funny to see the comment above from Marty and what came across as defensive reply from the author.
I am sorry that that has been your experience with Jamaicans, but I cannot say the same as someone born and raised in the country and who has lived in two other countries since then. Maybe that’s the Jamaicans you attracted and the circles you moved in.
You are correct that there is a lot of pride in our culture, which is why the lion is such a big symbol in Jamaica. However, your observation of how that pride plays out is shallow and inaccurate. Maybe you knew a lot of poor Jamaicans and poor people have similar problems anywhere. What you described, for instance, sounds more correct of African-American “hood culture” to me than Jamaicans at large.
Pride primarily plays out in CLASS structure in Jamaica. We are not a racist society, but a classist one. People do not posture for looks and ego. They do so because CLASS is what runs our society and money is not the only determining factor associated with class for us. It also comes down to where you went to school, where you work, who you know, what you drive, where you live, how often you travel, the first impression you give off, how you carry yourself, etc. Personally, I much prefer this over America where you can be the President of the United States and still be called a N1gg3r and asked for your birth certificate.
As for the “hurt” when criticized, this one had me laughing. Jamaican culture has something called “gimmicks” where literally all we do is make fun of each other. We grow up learning how to dish it and how to take it. And that goes for everyone, women included. Jamaican men can try to boss Jamaican women around all they like, but unlike America, we have a predominantly Black Matriarchal culture. I know that’s bizarre for Americans and most other nationalities because America is a White Patriarchy. Also, what many outsiders view as us fussing is us having a good time. There are no hurt feelings, but if you don’t know our culture you would assume otherwise. I’ve seen it happen all the time, particularly with Americans sticking their nose into our business when we were perfectly fine. Here we are laughing and some random person comes over to ask why we’re arguing. Like…what??
You have judged Jamaican culture through what I assume is American lenses, but our culture is much richer and much deeper than your surface-deep analogy. All the best.
I never thought Jamaicans were mean! I guess I can see how people with less sense could simplify it to that.
What I’ve noticed more is that yes they are blunt and straightforward for the most part and aggressive which is fine but it tends to be biased straightforwardness. The annoyance of a person and going on about them or off at them can be so intriguing to watch as the person freaking out is also usually guilty of the same offenses. They might tell someone their question is dumb but go on to ask an even ‘dumber’ question but dont dare try to tell them theirs was dumb.
No humans like to be critisized or wrong but the force seems stronger in the jamaican culture. The more bold and straightforward someone is the more they seem to be this way. The softer spoken ones seem less of this. It’s usually a symptom of a fragile ego which is understandable because the culture is also very egotistical and ego is seen as mainly positive to them. And there is big emphasis and focus on peoples external identity and value. Clothes, looks, being right, what they have or can do… with a lack of intrinsic worth and emotional understanding. Theres a big detachment there. So people will be very unbothered straightforward and confident but it is attached to those outer things so they will put you down for your dumb question like I said but will not want to hear about their own. They may even argue to the death that it wasnt or just let what you say pass by with blissful ignorance as they reassure themselves.
Your experiences are yours and your observations are your own. But, I can assure you, if you ask anyone in the world who you’ve just described, they would tell you: AN AMERICAN. I have immigrant friends from all around the world and that is precisely how we view America and its people. Thanks for commenting.
See, I too came here trying to understand why some woman with a Jamaican accent on the phone made me want to beat her senseless! I just wanted the chance to get back at her.
Oh yeah I’m French-Canadian. We’re assholes when we’re mad.
This is indeed an example of a misunderstanding based on cultural differences, and of course the woman on the phone was not being a monster. (She was probably just pissed that she’s in Canada in winter!)
I had an Acadian mother and believe me, her French-Canadian behaviour was seen as very aggressive over in English Canada.
This person who had negative experiences, I wonder if she’s from a northern European background, because I know I need to keep my eyebrows from moving around them. I’ve had to explain to a Scottish-Canadian that I’m only joking with my abusive humour.
So my tendency if someone was yelling at me would be to yell back “why are you such an a88hole today?!! ” 🙂 But even through the yelling, chances are we’ll reach an understanding.
What can you accomplish by not having a conversation that might solve problems?
Pretty sure I’d have a great time in Jamaica.
Hello Marie! I appreciate your outlook and will say that we get on much better with Canadians than Americans, in Jamaica. Canadians are not as bossy and the Commonwealth ties sometimes makes it easier for us to catch the dry humour.
I don’t know much about French Canada, so I’ll have to take your word for it! But, I can definitely see how the French can be more “passionate” then the northerners are used to. Remember, the Irish suffer the same fate despite being quite northern themselves. 😂
I’m not sure what that lady’s problem was. I think it’s silly to think Jamaicans are assholes and then wander into the lion’s den thinking she stands a chance. 🤣
Happy new year!
@alexis
I didn’t say jamaicans invented rudeness either. That’s on you once more. My “anecdote”, as you condescendingly put it (there’s that jamaican charm again), comes from working with only Jamaicans for the last 2 and a half years. It’s by far a more solid argument than “ask anyone in the world”. Seek peace. Seek therapy. Flee from projections. Peace out.
I can see why the Jamaicans you’ve met have not liked you. My mother always says when we keep having negative experiences in life, we should consider that we’re the common denominator and then examine why that is. I’m not the one on someone else’s website wailing and complaining. You are. So, it is not me who needs peace or therapy. That would be you, darling.
As you clearly have nothing meaningful to say, you have been blocked from further correspondence.
I thank you for the education about Jamaican culture. I appreciate knowing how to not offend and not be offended.
I read the comments made by anonymous about the bullying and rudeness and I can’t help but wonder if that person didn’t fully grasp cultural differences.
A friend I have from the middle east explained how giving a thumbs up is actually the same as giving the middle finger in the U.S.
Cultures can vary so widely and be so nuanced, it is fascinating to me.
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Hello Kim! So sorry, I’m just seeing this. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I’m glad you found this useful and informative.
That lady didn’t come to find answers. She came to vent and be offensive, so who can say what her actual thoughts are? I wish her all the best.
Thanks again for stopping by!